When you are single then the dating world can seem anathema to everything you want. All you are after is a few dates and the possibility of a relationship you really cherish, whereas what dating really gives you is just a feeling of either inadequacy as you see everyone else coupled up, or loathing, as everyone you meet seems newly released form the psychiatric ward. Either way, not what you are looking for from dating.
But actually you are your own worst enemy when it comes to dating. The problem that most people exhibit with dating is one of confidence. Most people, even if on the outside appear perfectly confident, do have trouble believing in themselves. They think that no one would really be interested in dating them, and then this shows in their behavior. They are withdrawn and nervous when meeting new people and therefore do not make a good impression.
If I could give one piece of advice to people who are starting out dating it is to believe in yourself. No matter who you are, there is someone out there for you and people will really like the real you. Do not be afraid to go out and find new people, start up new relationships and enjoy yourself. In fact it is normally the opposite that causes problems, when people become too stressed about the dating game and can’t have fun with it.
You really do need to calm down and enjoy it. The worry is understandable. The person you meet when you are out dating might be your true love, or dating one person might mean you are missing out on someone else. The amount of permutations that go through a person’s head is staggering, and all it does is wind them up.
Of course it can also be worrying thinking about whether the other person is going to like you. You’ll constantly be assessing your own behavior, unlike in normal situations and thinking about how you are being perceived. This makes you act strangely and, perversely, makes you be perceived badly.
Instead the best thing to do is to approach every new date as if it is a one-off. You are there to meet a new person, with new stories, new interests and a whole new outlook on life. If you like each other you’ll meet again, if not, no bother. It is the constant worry that makes dates bad. If both parties relaxed and enjoyed themselves, dating would be much more fun.
You really do need to enjoy yourself. I am not talking about getting royally drunk or going crazy (in fact, getting drunk on a date is an absolute no-no. One or two is fine, but stay in control), but try to make sure that the date is fun, and that even if nothing comes of it, you do not see it as a night wasted. Worrying about wasted time is also something that causes people problems with dating, as they, especially women, think that their lives are ebbing away and that they need to shack up with someone soon, whoever they are. Instead you should realize that a few dates here or there are not going to make much difference.
You should also try to enjoy yourself overall. Once you are shacked up and settled down, you will sometimes pine for the exciting dates of first dates and does he/doesn’t he thoughts. Dating should be exciting and enjoyable, no matter what happens. Dating is a great way to get out and meet new people and see new places. People often use this time in their lives for general betterment as well, taking up a new hobby to impress their possible partners, or hitting the gym to look better on a date. Use this whole time as an excuse to create a new you that anyone you meet will love.
Meet New People
And remember, this is all about meeting new people. It is highly unlikely that the first person you meet will be your prince or princess charming. You’ll probably go on quite a few dates before you meet someone you really click with and want to get to know better. But if you enjoy yourself during the dating experience, it means you can get to know people who might turn into good friends even if they do not turn into partners.
So try and maintain confidence throughout your dating travels, and remember to keep calm and just keep on dating – the right person might be just around the corner.
The three best ways to find love the second time are:
The internet has allowed many people to find the partner of their dreams. Many people who find themselves divorced have a very limited schedule to go out and find love. The internet opens up a new avenue for them to find people. Being able to reach out to others through the internet gives you better odds for finding someone. Instead of sitting in a bar night after night hoping that the man, or woman of your dreams will walk through the door, you are able to go through hundreds of singles in your area to find those you would like to get to know better. You don’t have to waste your time buying drinks, or taking them out on a date. You can communicate with them online until the time that you decide you actually want to meet them in person. it is a real time saver for divorcees who find themselves with twice the amount of responsibility and half the time.
There is a new phenomenon called speed dating. It is an organized way to meet many singles in your area at one time. There are organizations that put on lunches or dinners and they set up tables where couples are meant to spend time with each other for a short period of time. The thought is that you will know right away whether you want to spend more time with someone. You normally know if you are attracted to someone right away and having a short conversation is another way to weed possible matches out. After you have gone through all the singles you can opt to spend more time with one member or not. The reason that this is a great way to meet people is because it involves a very little amount of time, you can meet a whole lot of singles at once, and you don’t have to spend time with someone you aren’t interested in. For those who are recently divorced, it is a great way to get your feet wet. If you are worried about not having much to talk about on a first date, this is a test to feel more comfortable talking with potential dates.
Blind dates and set ups
There was a time when you were younger and someone setting you up meant your mom was setting you up with some homely person that her friend couldn’t find a partner for. Now that you are divorced and older things are different. Sometimes finding someone else who is also divorced is a good idea. Most often people will want to set you up with other friends of theirs who are recently divorced as well. Only those who have been through a divorce can understand what it is like. Finding a mate can start by finding a friend. Allow your friends to set you up with others they know are in the same boat. When you are a little older, your friends want to set you up because they think that someone will be good for you, not because they are doing someone a favor. The worst that can happen is you have someone to talk with, who knows what you are going through. If they aren’t the one for you, they may know who is. It is all about making connections and finding others who are in like situations. Allow people in your life to make connections for you, it may lead to the love of your life.
Yep, that’s right, divorce groups. They aren’t just for talking about your miserable Ex. Many divorce groups are full of men and women who are looking for love with people who are going through the same thing in life. Not only are they a great way to find support, they are full of singles looking for one another. Of course, not all of them are the same, so finding one that is more geared toward dating is a good idea.
Divorce is one of the most stressful events a human can experience in life. During this time, a person may feel depressed, anxious and lonely. Let’s face it. You planned to spend the rest of your life with that person. You built a foundation with them over many years. Now, they are gone. You feel unbalanced, unsure where you will land. Everyone expects you to feel these sad emotions. But, while others express their sympathy, you may be surprised to feel other emotions. You will experience a great excitement for the future. A whole new challenge in life is open to you. Once again, as when you were young, you are setting off into the big world to re-establish who you are and what you want to become. You have a wonderful opportunity to spend time with yourself, to do all those things you have dreamed. The best idea would be to spend time building a new foundation for yourself. So, before you sign up for that online dating website, or go on two dates every weekend, take the time to follow these three steps to ensure your path to peace, happiness, and a future full of love.
Focus on Now
When a human goes through traumatic events, chemicals are released in the brain to make you feel more aware as you charter through each day with an uncertain future. Much like when we lose loved ones, or have a major breakup, we have this drive to “seize the day”. You will feel this swing into a present state of mind. You will be more aware of “now”. This is a unique experience triggered by a major life event. Some people experience these events more than others, but as a human we all experience them at one time or another. And, believe it, or not, they are blessings in disguise. Take a journal and ask yourself, “How do I feel at the moment?” Be honest with yourself and write it all out. Dive into your emotions and explore why you feel a certain way. This practice make you more aware of your emotions and your present state of mind. Take an hour each day to allow yourself to contemplate and be introspective. Once the hour is up, spend the rest of your day invested in activities that help you focus on the present. Take each hour, each day, one at a time and choose activities that attract your interest. Listen to a new album, take a music class, read a book, watch a movie. Really focus on these activities as if time outside of it didn’t exist. Enjoy the activity unadulterated. Also, spend a lot of time engaging with other people. Conversation is a great way to busy ourselves, building stronger relationships, and express gratitude. You may even feel like hugging everyone you come across. There is nothing wrong with that emotion. Let your love pour out. Realize what your brain is trying to do and focus on the present. You are building your new foundation and focusing on the present will help you establish the many great interests you have as a person.
At this crossroads in life, you must embrace the idea of compassion, not anger or regret.
Divorces happen for many reasons, but it can be especially bitter when infidelity or abuse is a cause. There will be moments that you will regret wasted years, or be angry that you fell for the wrong person. These emotions will hinder you from building a new, strong foundation for yourself. By building on these thoughts, you will be still dependent on your spouse because they are what triggers your emotions. Then, you will try to overcompensate for your insecurities by trying to have someone come save you. Some other person you hope will be your “new love”. Don’t build this shaky foundation. You will never enjoy yourself and you may never correct the mistakes you made in your previous marriage. Instead, embrace compassion for everyone. And, you know the first person you need to express compassion towards. You guessed it, your ex-spouse. The question is not whether they deserve it or not, the question is what type of person do you want to become? Imagine your interactions with your spouse that are full of anger and pain. What type of person will you become as you feel these emotions take over during this precious time you have to build anew. Now, imagine yourself expressing compassion. Your ex-spouse has their issues as well. Practice non-judgment and compassion. They may appear to be doing fine, or they may be self-destructing. Either way, limit your interactions with your ex-spouse. But, when you do interact, your expression of compassion is very important for your own well-being. Compassion will attract someone new in your life.
Be Open to the World
You need to be around people that help you expand. Be open to any and all possibilities. Go to classes, join a book club, invent new recipes, learn a new language and study the culture. Instead of regretting the past, or worrying about the future, spend more time in curiosity and wonderment of the world. By carrying this curiosity, others will see your thirst for life. You will develop wonderful relationships and friendships when you carry this enthusiasm for life, and you will spend your days happy and grateful. Suddenly, you won’t feel like something is missing. When you reach this point, you will know that you have built your strong foundation. One way or another, someone will come along and be attracted to your strength and enthusiasm for life. You will energize them. They should do the same for you. And this time, your love will feel different, stronger. It won’t be the tug-of-war love that you experienced before, but a love that exists in harmony as two genuine people nurture a new relationship. Two strong people coming together invites a love of energy, comfort and confidence.
In today’s world, online dating is growing with more popularity. In many circles, people have come to accept that online dating as the definitive way to find a new love. There is nothing wrong with online dating in theory. The issue with online dating is the culture of immediate gratification. Some users will desperately search for any kind of comfort, others will go on dozens of dates in a month. They will feel pain, anger, regret and try to find a replacement to fill the hole in their life. They have not built a strong foundation so they will be encountering the same issues that have plagued their love life for years. Hopefully, you will take these words to heart and spend time to build your new foundation. Be sure to build your strong foundation before you try these sites. When you feel good about where you are and happy about your situation, begin your hunt. Sign up for an online dating site, or go on several dates a month. Have fun with your new experience. Never view the site as a search to find something that is missing. Nothing is missing. You have your strong foundation. Anything else that comes along is a nice addition to your wonderful life.
Every day, thousands of couples will break up and thousands of other couples will start their relationship together. When you break up with someone, there’s often a lot of insults and these are accompanied by a huge string of blame being laid on you by your soon to be ex. People often respond in kind accusing their ex partner of many things.
What not to do after a breakup
Whilst it is possible to get a girlfriend back, whether or not you should is an entirely different matter. If you genuinely loved them and wish to spend a lot more time with them, you’ll want to try and get your girlfriend back. If not, perhaps taking some time to look at yourself and how your life is progressing is going to be a better use of your time, rather than chasing after a girl you are not really interested in anymore. Most people get so caught up in trying to get their girlfriends back that they don’t stop to think about the situation. If you don’t really want your girlfriend back, it makes very little sense for you to try and get them back, right? After all, if you were never very happy with her and don’t even want to get back with her, you’ll just end up breaking up with her and hurting her feelings even more. Not a good move.
In the time after the breakup, whether you want your ex girlfriend back or not, you should use the time to try and improve your life. If after the relationship you’ve let go of yourself and just sit around playing video games all day, you are not going to attract anyone, apart from other girls who are feeling as miserable as you are. Of course, you won’t meet these girls to get along with them, because you’ll only be leaving the house to get milk. I recommend starting by finding a good wet shave barber in your local area. These guys will shave you and your hair in to better shape. After this, you should feel a lot better about yourself and you might want to go do something constructive. Whilst expensive, going out and buying a few pieces of nice clothing can really inject confidence in to your life. Buying a nice new suit jacket or pants will help you feel better about yourself and should mean that you will end up going outside a little more!
If you broke up with your girlfriend because she was letting herself go and slacking at life, there’s no room for wiggle in your own life. Being a hypocrite is not attractive and if you want to get the girl back in your life, you’d better start trying to make your life a place where someone would want to be, right?
After a breakup, you’ll be feeling down and sad if you didn’t want to break up with your girlfriend. Changing your outlook on life and trying to remain positive will go a long way in trying to get your old girlfriend back. Getting back in to the relaxed, confident and humorous version of you is going to make you much more attractive to everyone, not just your old ex girlfriend. When you make these changes and stick to them, you’ll soon notice the change in people’s attitudes around you. Hitting the gym hard, complimented by a good attitude will be the best thing you can do to get your girlfriend back in your arms.
Once you have sorted out your outlook and taken a stab at improving your life, you’ll finally be ready to call up your ex and see if they are at all interested in getting back together. Don’t bring it up right away, meet with them a few times at casual locations and make sure you still want to be with them and nobody else. If after you’ve met up with them a few times you want to get back together, bring it up. Talk about how you have changed, show what you are doing to get over the problems your last relationship brought and make sure your ex girlfriend knows that what you are doing is sincere. Remember, don’t rush in to this thinking that getting your ex back is the only way your life can continue because even after you improve yourself, your ex girlfriend might have moved on or might not want to be with you again anyway. It’s a tough thing to do, but it is possible to get your ex back, with a lot of work
Need a great shape but not able to spend hours in gym due to busy schedule? If you’re facing the same problem then it is time to concentrate on it. Here are some great tips on how to get in great shape without going to gym.
Enjoy Your Workout with Fitocracy
Fitocracy is one of the best and most famous fitness apps that turn your fitness sessions into a game. This application will initially ask you about your personal details to personalize it as per your choice. You will get points as you burn calories along with exercises. You can share your points (how much calories, you have burnt) with friends on famous social networking sites like Twitter, Facebook and Tumblr. If you like to achieve your goals any how then just download its free version and enjoy burning calories just like playing a “Tower of Saviors”.
Endomondo: Track Your Every Outdoor Activity
It is absolutely a fantastic application to stay fit and can get everyday’s report on how much who have walked throughout the day. Endomondo can automatically record the route you take while walking, running or doing any kind of outdoor activities through advanced GPS tracking system. This application also tracks the total time and distance, so that you can challenge yourself for your next workout session. One can download its pro version, $4.99, which also include gap tracking for your strength interval workout session. But first try its free version and enjoy an intense workout session.
New Comers start their workout with Gain
If you really don’t know what exactly needs to do when it’s time to work-out then Gain is your personal teacher who will teach you from where to start. It is an outstanding application for beginners as Gain has some real fitness trainers demonstrating muscle moves, famous yoga positions and cardio. It will also create a custom workout session especially designed for you after knowing your personal details. It is easy to learn because it shows you some moving pictures on how to do the steps properly. Gain is an ideal application for all those who are looking for new insight.
So, the main reason of sharing these Smartphone apps is to assist you on how to connect with technology in an optimistic way that can make you healthy and fit. Use your Smartphone in a wise manner and get ready to start work-out at home with your personal trainer.
Many of you think that the iPad contains only fun apps but the truth is that there are so many educational apps you can find in the store for free. These educational apps will definitely interest your kids to learn in a fun way. All kids want to use an iPad and if they know they can learn using it then it becomes an even better reason for them to use it. You should make sure to install only the apps that provide true content and easy navigation so that the kids can use it. To help you find the best choice, here is a list of the five best free educational apps for kids.
1) Squiggles: This is an app that helps your kid’s imaginations grow. In this app the kids can draw and paint using their hands. The app guides the children on how to present the squiggle after finishing the drawing .You can draw a snake, elephant’s trunk or anything and click “ok” on the top and you can see the squiggles move around and get animated. This app also has a feature where you can choose a photo and include squiggles in it. Your kid will be able to make their own adventure story using this app. Your kids will learn a lot when they have to use their imagination.
2) LEGO creationary: If your kid is a Lego fan then this app is a must. This game will test how fast your kids will find out what object is being constructed using the Lego blocks. Before starting the game, it would roll a rice to choose the category of the item it is going to construct. While you see the object being built, you can also see four objects at four different corners of the screen. If you know which object it is, all you have to do is click the object. One might think it is simple and all the kids have to do is figure the correct object but the fact is the app builds the object quickly and the kids have to be really fast in figuring it out. The kids will have to observe keenly and use their creation to figure it out. This will definitely help the kids to learn to think quickly.
3) Rods: This helps the kids to improve their mathematical concepts. This game has both addition and subtraction concepts. It involves using different length rods to show how numbers make up other numbers. The kid will have to choose the right lengthen rod that will fit the puzzle.
4) Sushi monster: Another app that will help the kids in their mathematical skills. In this app your kid can practice multiplication, addition in the fun way. The kids will have to solve problems to feed their sushi monsters and earn coins. The scenario which is presented is a cafeteria where there is a sushi monster in the middle that is surrounded by plates filled with sushi. There are different levels for the kids to move along as they complete the one they are presently in. This is one of the best apps for your kids to learn in a fun environment,
5) Reading Raven: This app will help in improving the kids reading skills. This is a perfect app when you take your kids for a road trip and you want them engaged during the travel. This app contains short stories that will keep the kids interested for a long time. This is an apt app for kids who have just started to read.
These apps are meant for kids to get involved and learn in an innovative instead of just using books to learn things. So download these apps for free and see how your kids enjoy the learning phase!
How do you invest your tax refund? Most Americans have tried to find an answer to this question for many years. Investing tax refund is a challenging task if you do not have tips. Therefore, how do you make this investment opportunity a reality? There are several ways to invest your tax refund, but for now, I will give you the 3 best stocks to invest this refund.
Trading Securities such as shares
This is a lasting investment hence choosing to invest in shares can be a prudent decision to make. These are the most viable stock to invest your tax refund. The rewards are higher, so is the risks. Depending on the performance of the shares on the trading floor, you will get either loss or gain. You must also do your personal research on which shares to buy in order to avoid loss after purchase.
You may also need to seek professional tip on which shares to purchase in order to maximize your returns. Always remember that the higher the risk of a particular stock, the higher the rate of return forms the particular investment.
Fixed income financial instruments like treasury bond, notes, and bills
Investing in fixed income securities such as treasury bills, notes, and bonds can be rewarding. One advantage of these stocks is that their values are not influenced by the market performances as opposed to the risky stocks such as shares.
Use the tax refund to purchase government bills, notes, and debentures. Since they are not determined by the market performance, you are guaranteed a certain percentage of reward after specific time duration.
The net return might not be as high as shares, but you are guaranteed a certain percentage of return from your investment. Make a step and invest your tax refund and you will be guaranteed a given net reward.
Financial futures, options, forwards, and commodities
Investing your tax refund in financial derivatives such as forwards, options, futures, and commodities among other derivatives can be the best in option for these funds. You can buy natural oil forward or option to sell at a predetermined future date. With the current volatility in the prices in the natural oil gas products, this can be a great investment opportunity for this idle fund.
Otherwise, you can also buy a forward contract of oil gas in the market. This allows you to sell this product in the future at the agreed price. When the oil prices rises compared to the buying price, you can sell the product to earn the arbitrage opportunity difference as the profit.
Finally, on financial derivatives, you can opt for commodity. You can choose any product such as gold price, which is known to be ever rising. Within the first year, you may sell the gold at the market making a huge profit from the market arbitrage.
Make a bold step by reclaiming your financial freedom through investing your tax refund in the above mentioned stocks.